Having thoughts of wanting to end your life can be really frightening. Wanting it all to end can sometimes seem like the only way to deal with how you’re feeling.
It’s important to know that these thoughts are not uncommon, approximately 20% of New Zealanders experience suicidal thoughts at any one time but there are ways to help make things better. Scroll below to read more or if you feel like you need help now, click below.
Suicidal thoughts can be linked to things that have happened before, things that are happening now as well as the amount of stress in your life. For some people they might not even know why they’re having these thoughts and that can make things even more confusing.
Some people find these thoughts can get stronger when they have more stress in their lives, such as relationship breakups, when they’re injured or when they’re away from their families. If you’re feeling this way and especially if these thoughts are getting stronger then you need to get help right now.
Suicide rates in New Zealand are some of the highest in the world and over 3/4 of suicides are men. Men often find it a lot harder to talk about how they’re feeling, and even harder to ask for help.
When you find yourself in a dark place and you don’t think you can make it out, or even that it is worth making it out, talking to someone whether a friend or a professional is the single biggest thing you can do to help. Research shows that after seeking help, less than 10% of people who have attempted to take their lives will try again. Have a look here for ways to ask for help.
It’s natural to want to get rid of these feelings or change the situation you’re in. Sometimes you might feel so distressed it can feel like there’s no other option. You might feel like you have no support, no one cares, you’re worthless, and there’s nothing you can do to change anything. Or you might be blaming yourself for things that have happened in the past, and feel like it might be easier for others if you weren’t around.
There are lots of people who have gone through tough times and experienced thoughts of wanting to end their own lives. With the right support, time and care they’ve been able to work through these thoughts and you can too.
Having thoughts of suicide or feeling suicidal can be different for each individual. Below are some of the common signs people talk about. It is really important to make sure you seek help if you are experiencing any of these things.
When you’re feeling unsafe or at risk of hurting yourself it’s important to focus on simple tasks that you can do to help keep yourself safe. The strategies below can be helpful but if you are worried about hurting yourself then seeking help is the single best thing you can do.
If you’re worried about hurting yourself, talk to someone you trust about what is going on for you or contact one of these helplines. If you live alone, ask if a family member or friend can stay with you.
Having a written plan for times when you feel unsafe can be really helpful. These should be simple, clear steps you can follow as well as emergency numbers you can contact if you feel at risk of hurting yourself.
Feeling suicidal is often accompanied by, or linked to a range of other emotions. Talking to a professional can help you work through how you’re feeling and get on the road to feeling better. Click here to see who you can talk to.
Fill it with things that help comfort you and remind you of things you enjoy e.g. photos, music, a favourite book or movie.
It can be helpful to remind yourself of things that have helped you in the past e.g. reaching out to a friend, not being alone, speaking to a professional, following a safety plan.
If you’re feeling at risk of hurting yourself it’s important to talk to someone straight away and move to an environment where you feel safe.
It is really important to know that there is help available for you if you are having thoughts of wanting to end your life. It can be really hard to see a way through by yourself and it can be much more difficult if you try and do it alone.
But it doesn’t need to be that way. There are people who are willing and able to help you. Although it can be tough, it’s very important to tell someone you trust that you are experiencing suicidal thoughts and to ask them for help. Over 90% of people who seek help after trying to take their own lives will never experience another suicide attempt.
If your request for help isn’t heard, ask again, or find someone else who will listen.
Seek help as soon as possible if you, or anyone you know is talking about/feeling any of the following:
If you are feeling at risk of harm to yourself or you know of someone who is, then you need to seek help immediately. Phone 111 or go to your nearest hospital emergency department. Click here for a list of other emergency contacts.